Wednesday, 26 August 2015

Donating to the Baby Bank Network at Born



Did you know that you can now support the Baby Bank Network by purchasing a donation pack of essentials for a baby or a new mum at Born and Borndirect.com which will be passed directly to families in need?

The Bristol Baby Bank, co-founded by Born's Eva Fernandes, takes baby items such as clothes, slings and nappies that have been used and loved by parents but are no longer needed, and redistributes them to parents who cannot afford to buy these items new or second hand.

The response that they have had in these first few weeks has been fantastic. It's a simple idea and people have been donating lots already - so much so, that the space they have had donated by The Big Yellow Self Storage Company is already too small.

Until they can find a larger storage space, the Bristol Baby Bank are unable to take any more donations of used items. However, there are other ways that you can donate and you don't need to be local to Bristol to do it!

Visit the Baby Bank Network page at Borndirect and you can choose to purchase a donation pack for a newborn baby or a new mum, or a pack of nappies and wipes - these will be passed via to the referring health or social professional, to a family who are unable to provide these items themselves.




You can also choose to give a financial donation to the Baby Bank Network so that they can supplement or repair donated items, such as teats for bottles, mattresses for cots and moses baskets and new straps for prams and highchairs. For example, £10 buys a new mattress for a moses basket and £50 buys a new mattress for a cot. They can also buy toiletries such as nappies, wipes, and creams for the baby and shampoo, moisturiser, lip balm and other treats for the mother.

Visit Baby Bank Network at Borndirect or see their website babybanknetwork.com

Tuesday, 25 August 2015

To share or not to share? Is it natural to ask our toddlers to share their prize possessions?




By Guest Blogger Claire Tchaikowski, mother and writer at breastfeedingthoughts.com


Yesterday, our new neighbour popped in to introduce herself. As I showed her down the hallway to the living room, she suddenly exclaimed a loud "Wow!" and ran off into my bedroom. She reached into my open cupboard and took a dress out, held it up to herself and looked in the mirror. "I love it!" she said, putting it on. And before I could get my thoughts straight to say anything at all, she opened up my laptop, sat on my bed, and checked her email.

Oh no wait, that never happened. When would we ever expect anyone to find something like that normal and be fine with it? Ah yes… Childhood. That tender time when we request a whole host of things of our children that we would never allow anyone to ask us to deal with as adults.

I suppose how we relate to our children's desire for privacy and choice around sharing their things or not comes down to our core belief about what our true natures are, and how scared or trusting we parents are about that nature.

Are we born open, expecting to create loving bonds with others, with a natural drive to explore, expand, be useful to and connected with others as we grow up? Or are we born determined to avoid everyone but ourselves and willing to manipulate anyone to have a run of the place for the rest of our lives? I believe in the former. I also believe that we can ironically be brought up to live with the latter attitude if we are mistrusted as children.

Our very survival in early life depends on us being loved, wanted and connected with others, first with our parents, then with other family, friends and our community. We are born reaching out with all our hearts to our caregivers. We don't need to be taught socialisation, we're brilliant at it. In fact we are born so trusting, carefree and driven to explore and interact that we quite quickly need a grown up hand to slow us down, teach us not to cruise along the cooker and out into the garden without someone else there, teach us to look before running off down the street, help us to sense into another person's state of mind before walking up and showing them our new toy… And we need someone there with open arms when we need comfort because we got a little ahead of ourselves and got scared.

I believe we all naturally tend towards connection and generous sharing if we are trusted to do so in our own time.

In fact, choosing whether or not to share his toys is one of the only times our 32 month old son Elliott shows a strong preference for privacy. And I like that. So when someone is coming over for a playdate, he and I walk round the house together and put away any toys he tells me he doesn't want to share with the friend in question.

What he puts away depends on who the friend is, on how tired our son is, on how nervous or excited we all are about the visit, a host of things come into play. We also have an agreement that if he realises at any point that he really doesn't want to share something he's left out, he can bring it to me and we'll put it away. The one rule I uphold is that no-one snatches anything out of anyone else's hands.

Some days we've had conversations that go like this: "Do you want to put your fire engine in the bedroom or do you want to share it?" "Err, share it." "Are you sure? Last time we left it out you realised you really didn't want to share it after all…" "It's ok, I share it". And he does. For the most part he's relaxed and totally fine even with kids he's never met coming and taking over the house and his toys. He always has been, and I think it has a lot to do with him being encouraged to choose his own boundaries with regards to his own privacy. I've noticed recently that he wants some say in who his friends are too now, which I'm happy to honour as best I can as he is much more relaxed if he's had some choice in who is playing with his things. Aren't we all?

Don't get me wrong, we have had a few howlers, 3 memorable ones in particular when he has run around the whole time screaming "NO!!" at the other child. But it turns out on all occasions he was exhausted and coming down with a cold, falling asleep just after our friends left.

And what about sharing when we're out and about at playgroups etc? It can be so hard to stay relaxed when we're wanting to integrate with other mothers, wanting to be liked and like others, wanting our children to be sensitive to others and be liked as well.

I suspect the same trust or fear of our child's core nature applies. I personally don't ask him to give anything away if he's busy playing with it. And a few times he's surprised me by spontaneously bringing the toy to the child who wanted it when he's done with it. If he wants something another child is playing with I just say "That toy's busy, lets find something else" and he potters off quite happily.

To me the significance is this. As he grows up to become an older boy then a young teenager, I'm hoping he'll be very much at peace if he feels the desire to say 'no thank you' to someone who wants to come into his private sphere. I hope he expects to be heard if he says 'no thank you', and he knows to respect a 'no thank you' from someone else.

This seems like a vital inner compass to have when he starts exploring his sexuality, choosing his good friends, choosing how to invest his time in his studies and professional life. 'No' will be as easy to use as 'Yes'.

Do you know anyone who could benefit from being better at saying no? I thought so ;)


Follow Claire at breastfeedingthoughts.com







Tuesday, 18 August 2015

Born - The UK Stokke Specialists




Have you seen the new Born Stokke Packages? As the UK Stokke Specialists for all Stokke Nursery, Accessories & Spare Parts, we work hard to bring you the best online prices and bundle deals for Stokke furniture. In fact, we don't think you'll find a better price for our Stokke packages, but if you do, please contact us and we will do our best to match it!












Frugi & Little Green Radicals Organic Baby Clothes now 30% OFF at Born!





When you were little, did you have that one piece of clothing that you loved? The one that you wanted to wear every day, the one that was soft, comfy, cosy and snuggly? The one that you kept, even though you couldn't fit into it any more?

Now it's the turn of your own little one - and where better to find that beloved favourite item than in our range of Frugi and Little Green Radicals?!


       
Organic Baby Grow by Little Green Radicals
Organic Dungarees by Frugi
   

These gorgeous clothes for babies and toddlers are made from 100% organic cotton so they're beautifully soft and comfy to wear, whilst the bright colours and original fun designs are perfect for showing off!

Better yet, the summer collections from Frugi and Little Green Radicals are now in the Born Sale with 30% off - and don't forget that when you spend over £40, your postage and packing is free.



Shop now and find those new favourites!




                   


                                 Shop the Little Green Radicals Range                                 Shop the Frugi Range










   


Tuesday, 11 August 2015

We Made Me Pao Papoose & Wuti Wrap Now At Born!




"We Made Me are delighted to have their new products the Pao Papoose and Wuti Wrap stocked on the shelves at Born. It's rare to find a retailer that adopts such a intuitive and holistic approach to its customers and we therefore know that the team at Born will match our carriers to the right parents and babies.
Daniel Lucas, CEO, We Made Me


We are really excited to have the Pao Papoose and the Wuti Wrap at Born!




The eminently stylish and practical Pao Papoose is a super-adjustable, soft-structured carrier ideal for babies aged 4 to 36 months. Offering front and back carrying positions, this unique carrier delivers the ultimate in exquisite tailoring and comfort for both baby and wearer. 





The super-stretchy, ultra-breathable Wuti Wrap is perfect for the first nine months of baby's life when they crave comfort and security. This infinitely practical, exceptionally comfortable woven wrap enables little ones to make the gentle transition from womb to wearer, with as little separation as possible, leaving you free to get on with other things.

Monday, 10 August 2015

Top 10 Questions to Ask When Buying a Sling or Baby Carrier


If you are thinking about buying a sling, wrap or baby carrier for the first time, it can seem like a bit of a minefield - there are a lot of different types and brands on the market, each with various benefits. With any sling, it is important to make sure you buy from a reputable, authorised retailer, but how do you know which type of carrier is right for you, your family and your baby?


Our own Infant Carrying Consultant, Katie Richards, has put together her Top Ten suggested questions that you need to consider...

  • Is this sling for your personal use or will other's use it too? i.e. partner, grandparents, care providers.

  • Was your baby born by/is your baby expected to be delivered by Caesarean section or does your baby have a low birth weight? This can change the amount of slings available for use for a period of time.

  • Do you (and/or your partner or infant, if applicable) have any existing medical conditions that may affect babywearing?

  • How do you anticipate using the sling?
- Everyday / Occasional use
- Just me using it / Sharing with partner/family
- Carrying at home / Long walks
- On holiday / Short trips / To and from car




  • How old is the infant you will be carrying? Will you be carrying a range of different aged infants in the same sling?

  • Are you looking to carry your infant on your front, side or back? (age will be a factor here).

  • Think about comfort and weight distribution - do you require wide material straps or padded straps? Will carrying on both shoulders or just one be preferable? Is the carrier ergonomic and does it hold your baby in the most comfortable position for their age and development?

  • Will you be nursing in the sling?

  • Safety and sturdiness - check out all the buckles, straps, clips and fastenings to make sure they are all in working order. Make sure that you and the sling are complying with TICKS.



  • How much do you want to spend? It is well worth trying a sling out at your local sling library (who will hire you a carrier and demonstrate safe and correct usage) so that you are sure before you buy. Buy from reputable retailers particularly if the brand you are interested in has an issue with fakes. 

If you have any further questions about the use of slings do get in contact with your local sling library of infant carrying consultant.

Born have an qualified and fully insured infant carrying consultant in our Bristol store on Wednesdays who is happy to answer any of your questions. Please contact us on 0117 924 5080 for more details. 

We also host the Avon & Bristol Sling Library at our store in Bristol (soon to do drop in sessions on the first and third Monday of the month 0930-1130).  

You can view our full range of slings, wraps and carriers at www.borndirect.com/carriers...



Wednesday, 29 July 2015

New Bargains in the Born Summer Sale




The End of Season Summer Sale at Born is full of end of season and end of line bargains, and we are adding more each day!


The sale includes organic clothes by Frugi and Little Green Radicals, Vibe Strollers, pushchair accessories from Bugaboo, Joolz and phil&teds, Brio toys, baby safety equipment, Moba Moses Baskets, changing bags, carriers, maternity clothes and lots more, with reductions up to 50%!